Parish Policies for Wedding Ceremonies


Please be assured of our prayers and support for you during this special time for preparation for the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.

Diocesan Policies for Wedding Ceremonies

Sometimes the requirements for wedding ceremonies -- along with the many other aspects of planning your wedding -- can start to feel overwhelming. In an effort to help you plan your ceremony in concert with the beauty and fullness of Church teachings, we have created this Fifteen Point Checklist for Holy Weddings. Please use this as your guide when planning the specific aspects of your wedding ceremony.


St Mary Catholic Church Policies for Wedding Ceremonies

We understand the many facets of planning your wedding ceremony, and the importance of this special day for you and your family.

We have put together the following resources to help guide you in preparing for your wedding ceremony. If you have any questions or concerns, please call the parish office for clarifications or to set up a meeting with our Pastor or Wedding Coordinator.

Scheduling Your Wedding Ceremony

Call the Parish Office and schedule a meeting with a clergy member. During the initial meeting you can set a wedding date. Only after speaking with a priest can a date be confirmed. 

The wedding date should be at least 6 months after that first meeting. A couple must be free to marry in the Catholic Church. If either person has been previously married, no date can be set until their freedom to marry has been determined.

Ordinarily, weddings are celebrated on Saturdays anywhere from 10:00 am; with 2:00 pm being the latest. Other days and times can be arranged if the church is available. 

Please note, there are no weddings scheduled during the Lenten season.

Scheduling Your Rehearsal 

When scheduling your wedding ceremony, a rehearsal date and time will also be set. Typically, the rehearsal takes place the Friday evening before the wedding day.



Floral Arrangements

Only live flowers can be used in the Cathedral Proper. It is customary for all flower arrangements used in the church for your wedding to be left for weekend Masses.

During the Christmas or Easter season, the arrangements that are already present in the church may not be moved/rearranged.

Pew Bows

Pew bows can be used, but they must be attached without tape. Ribbons or snail clips are permitted.


Candelabras may be used, however, dripless candles are required to prevent wax from damaging the floor.

Photography & Videography

Flash photography is permitted as the couple enters and leaves the church, but it is no longer permissible once the couple arrive at the altar.

Please note, no spotlights may be used during the wedding.

Photographers and Videographers are not allowed to enter the Altar area during the ceremony.

Additionally, photographers and videographers are to be discrete when moving around during the ceremony to preserve the liturgy.

After the wedding, group pictures can be taken in front of the Altar using the marble steps.


Celebrant and Concelebrants

Typically, the parish pastor, parochial vicar, or a deacon witness marriages.

If you have a relative, or a friend who is a priest or deacon, we welcome them to officiate a wedding at our parish. Please be sure to coordinate the necessary details with our pastor.

Please note, any priest or deacon from outside the Diocese of Jefferson City planning to celebrate or assist with a wedding ceremony at our parish requires a current Letter of Good Standing from their Bishop or the Superior of their order.

Required Documents

Please note, all necessary paperwork should be completed one month prior to the wedding if the marriage will take place at the our parish, and requests for documentation from our parish office should be made two months if the marriage will take in another parish.

Baptism Certificate (Issued within the last 6 months)

Every Catholic must present a Baptism certificate from their church of Baptism.

The certificate must be issued within 6 months of the scheduled first meeting with the celebrant.

Please note, this document should have notations on back indicating all Sacraments received up to date.


Civil Marriage License

If you are to be married in Jefferson City, Missouri, you will need a Cole County Marriage License.

This can be obtained from the Cole County Clerk’s Office in Jefferson City.

If you are to be married outside of Cole County / Missouri, check on the requirements of that state/county. They may vary from those of Missouri.

You may find information on the Official Website of the State of Missouri's website pertaining to marriage helpful in obtaining your marriage license.